Okay, don't answer that...
Seriously, I've been having these feelings and I think I might be nuts because... wait for it...
I want another baby. Like now. WTF is wrong with me? I'm blaming Sally, actually. In case you don't read it, Sally's blog Exploits of a Military Mama is awesome and you should hop over there and show her some love. Then, give her a hard time about looking so great pregnant, having an adorable little boy, a bragworthy husband (just like mine is so many ways!), and making me want another baby!
Ryan and I have already established that we're going to have another child. We always said we wanted 2 children, close in age, but we're not sure how feasible that is right now. We pay our bills each month and get by just fine but it would be financially irresponsible to increase the size of our family right now. We've laid out the numbers and realize that all we'd need to spend for a new baby would be medical bills and another car seat (which we'll need anyway since Emmaline will grow out of the one we have). We purposefully bought mostly gender neutral everything for Emmaline so that it could be reused for our second, no matter the sex. We have enough cloth diapers to get by with two in diapers and Emmaline breastfeeds exclusively so we don't spend money on formula (speaking of which I'm still getting coupons in the mail so contact me if you want me to mail them to you!!). Another baby wouldn't cost too much money upfront, it's a year or two down the road when Emmaline's needs increase that we'll notice the financial crunch... although I hope we won't need to be as frugal in a year or two so there's that too...
I loved being pregnant. I mean, there were some downsides, of course. I had to pee every hour, was thirsty like you wouldn't believe, the heat was killer, my feet got bigger, I was tired, my back was sore, I couldn't sleep well (and needed a pillow fort to support all the nooks and crannies), my boobs were sore, but I was happy. I was so happy. I loved having a baby in my belly! I loved the bump and all that came with it. Honestly, I can't wait to do it all over again.
Emmaline is almost 8 months old. I'd love to start trying for another baby when she's a year old. I don't know if we'll feel stable and secure enough at that point to bring another life into the world but I really really REALLY hope we do because I seriously want to.
Any opinions out there? Anyone with two under two who think I'm absolutely insane (or brilliant? yeah, say brilliant!!)? After medical costs, do you really notice the financial burden of another baby? The sleep deprivation? The extra diapers? I've thought about all of this and I'm thinking that as long as I don't have to work full time, I can handle all of that. I may not be the perfect mom but I can be the perfect mom for my family and I really want that to include another little one soon!
I can understand that. We just don't have the room. Having another baby would mean adding another crib or getting G a toddler bed and I just don't know how we'd squeeze that into his room right now. It's hard being in a big expensive city...I think we're waiting til we can afford a bigger place or at least find a 3 bedroom apt.
ReplyDeleteI have a friend who just finished her year of having 2 under 2...and she did quite well, albeit she's a little more scatterbrained than usual. My cousin will have 2 under 2 + an 8 year old any day now! I don't know how she's going to do it because she lives on the 3rd floor walk up...and her 17 month old can't do stairs yet. So how she's going to carry two babies up 3 flights of stairs with groceries and laundry is beyond me.
But I don't think you're crazy...having a baby is amazing and I can't believe how fast the time flies...I mean how is G already so close to walking? I mean seriously!? I feel like I just met him yesterday...
Thanks Kirstin - yeah, we don't have the room either but we figure that Emma slept in our room in the basinett for the first 5 months so why wouldn't the next baby? At that point, she'd be old enough for a toddler bed anyway or we'd get a smaller crib (her crib is huge) for baby 2 and they could share a room. I shared with my siblings and it was no big deal.
ReplyDeleteI'm a little freaked out for your cousin though! Although you can make the moby work for 2 babes (way hard on your back, I would think). Maybe one in a stroller, one in a carrier? Eeesh...
I totally feel the same way as you. So excited to have another baby already (mine is only 4 MONTHS.. crazy.) - but... I don't want them to ever be in the same class at school. (The French Immersion classes here are all split grades).... so I will wait.
ReplyDeleteps. I love the name Emmaline. Reminds me of the Anne of Green Gables movie (one of Anne's favourite students).